Are you living your best life?
In a previous blog (where has my confidence gone) I confessed that I had feared something and promised I would share that with you – it was a fear of loss, but more specifically it was a fear of death.
We all know we’re going to die, as are those around us but how many of us really accept it. I mean truly embrace it and live our best life. I don’t mean live life to the full and rush out and do all the things we feel we ought to do, that’s superficial.
What I mean is do you truly appreciate every moment in your life?
The fear I had of death showed me that I wasn’t living my best life. I wasn’t truly appreciating every moment of my life and yet death has always done its best to remind me. It has always been there yet I ignored it so well.
I’ve had a few close calls. In particular, I nearly drowned – twice (once when young learning to swim, the second time an adult on holiday) – then, recently in 2016 (shortly after the book launch) I wrapped my car around a lamppost and it was a miracle I walked away unharmed. Yet I still hadn’t fully grasped the message. Therefore in the space of a year across 2017 and 2018, death tried to reach out to me again and again until I finally grasped the message.
My beloved gran died of old age robbed by Alzheimer’s. One of my cousins died shortly after, losing his battle with cancer whilst at the same time I received news of a client who was fighting her own battle (and thankfully has won). Then I was told someone I care about deeply was suffering from mental ill health and had attempted suicide, and tried it again before the year was out – thankfully unsuccessfully. In January as everyone was recovering from their hangovers and making their New Year resolutions, two people I care about deeply lost their baby in its last trimester, and shortly later another two close friends shared the news that their step-fathers had died. I could no longer avoid death. It was there in plain sight to be seen everywhere I looked.
All this made me anxious but I wasn’t fearing death, what I was fearing was that I wasn’t living my best life. And whilst I did my best to turn up at work every day, it also encouraged me to think of this in the context of what I discuss in my books and blogs about money and success.
Death and taxes are a given, we can’t escape either of them.